It's been a few weeks since I've last written. Not for a lack of things to write.....but rather lack of time...we've been keeping busy. This weekend we've been celebrating Gianna's birthday. We were fortunate to be able to have two parties. The first one was on friday night. My nieces, spouse Brian and son Nicky, along with brother in law Tommy & Gianna's boyfriend came over. Nat brought Gianna a red velvet cake !! Saturday was our usual morning of cheerleading with our happy cheerleader Toni !!! Then my parents came down for dinner. Mom made baked french toast with extra raisins, walnuts & goo...per the birthday girl's request. We followed that up with Stock's pound cake topped with strawberries & whip cream.....but the party didn't stop there. After dinner we had another crew join us.....Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Sis in Laws, Friends- mine and the girls !! Another shout out to my friend Chrissie......once again.....another GREAT cake !!! Yummmmm !!!! Tomorrow the fun continues.......Gianna's actual birthday......and she has a swim meet.......so I am going to "help" the team by bringing the party to them. Gianna & I put together brownies, rice crispy treats, mini donuts and small strudels !! Then we will finish the night with Mother/daughter night at EG's.
I am blessed......the Lord has given me two wonderful daughters !!!!
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On another topic........I post this question .........who came up with the phrase "time heals" ???
This was my fb post earlier.....Some more thoughts on grief- who came up with the phrase ” time heals” ? And what were they referring to ? Certainly can't be grief. Because time doesn't heal- time may lessen the intensity but it certainly doesn't make it go away. It is there forever and always.......this means there is NO time limit on grief.
I am finding....that the hardest parts are not immediate or even at the "big things" instead it is the "small things". You know the times you realize that the shock has worn off, the support of the well meaning is fading and now......it hits......life will never be the same. As the fog lifts and you start to regain your brain......and the everyday tasks are once again endless......you realize that you are going to always have this huge hole in your life, the loss will hit you like a truck when you least expect it.
It will be challenging when people ask "how are you?" or when time passes and they have gone on with their lives.....yet they don't remember that you have lost a huge & major part of yourself. How do you explain so they will understand.....that when the "two became one.....& now that one has been ripped apart with no chance to say goodbye" that the part who has been left behind just doesn't "get over" it.
There is no quick recovery, we will always carry this feeling of pain, hurt and loss- BUT we will also carry the love, memories and feelings forever !!
The girls and I struggle in our own ways......but thru these battles.....we will always carry Carmen with us and we do our best to focus on the love & good memories not the loss.
As you sit and plan for tomorrow....remember that "Time is so short and life is fleeting....you never know what will happen next. So Love those around you as if there is no tomorrow and live your life without any regrets. Time with those you love is precious and priceless. Make the most of it and never let them forget you love them. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
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